Standing up for Yourself

Standing Up for Yourself! 

So in my last blog, I talked about having a boldness for God. That is so important when it comes to us being chirstians. We need to be able to stand boldly for God when things are not right.  But one thing that I realized, the hard way, was how hard it is to have boldness when it comes to oneself.

Now I am not saying that this is every Christian man or woman, but I have noticed that sometimes it is hard for others to stand up for themselves.

I have struggled with that for years. I know in the past when I stood up for myself,  I would get so mad and angry and I was not acting Godly at all. I would curse and just act like I was just  a crazy person.  

This happened when I was pregnant with my oldest son Donovan. I had a boss who was very nasty and very ugly. One day I did not have a ride to work because my husband was stuck at work and could not get off, ( he sold cars at the time). Well I called up to my job to let them know what was going on and that I would be at work as soon as I could. I ended up walking 45 minutes to work 3 1/2 month pregnant. Come to find out the nurse was going to come get me and my boss told her no. She told her to let me walk. We did not get along at all.

Well a few days later she started yelling at me over a patient that was not even mine. I lost it. I started screaming at her and cursing at her, and I quit my job. That was a bad idea because we ended up homeless a few months later. 

But I was so angry and mad and I could have handled that situation so much better.  So I told myself I would not act like that again. 

But when I started changing my life for God, I noticed the total opposite. 

People would say things to me, and instead of standing up for myself, or letting them know that I did not appreciate what they said,  I would let them just talk to me in a very negative way, and I would not say a word for fear of me being ungodly.  But it stressed me out because I felt like I needed to speak my peace but I just did not know how to do it without being so angry and not acting like the Godly woman I am. 

People would judge me without even knowing me and I would just let them. 

But one day something happened that made me realize that I could stand up for myself and be a woman of God at the same time. 

I was telling my husband about a situation where I asked for prayer in a situation and instead of getting prayer, I got judged and criticized about a decision I had made. I was very angry because I felt like the person judging me had not experience with what I was going through and that they were just speaking out of a not so nice place. 

 I love my husband because he made me realize that I can stand up for myself in a Godly way. 

We all have people in our lives that speak out of content or do things to us that we do not like. But it is up to us to stand up for ourselves and not let people think they got the best of us. We need to let people know how we feel, in a loving GOdly way, so they do not think us to be weak our a push over. 

Too many times I have seen christian people talk badly to other christian and they do not say a word. You don't have to be ugly to get your point across, and you do not have to be a pushover just because you are a chirstian. 

Let God lead you and guide you in what you should say, and you will be able to stand up for yourself in those hard situations.

God bless.